How to be a perfect suitor

Some formalities…

  • Please send a nice, gentlemanly introduction. Bonus points if you ask about my Rebecca-approved dates ideas list. We should be able to confirm a date with a deposit within 5-6 messages.

    I'm a Type A person who values efficiency, sincerity, and enjoys reciprocating in kind. My personal record in confirming a date was 10 minutes, and 20 minutes for an international travel date. Don't be shocked if you hear back from me super quickly if I like what I receive from you :)

  • I screen everyone for safety and compatibility, no exceptions. I may ask for more info if I deem it fit.

    Examples of what I can ask for: LinkedIn, ID, employment verification, among several other options.

    Clients of high calibre typically see my screening process as an assurance of professionalism, and not an inconvenience. We are all adults exercising free will here. If what I ask for is too much for you, we may simply be incompatible.

  • I take anywhere from 30-100% deposit for all dates, operating on a first-deposit, first-serve basis for fairness.

    • Accepted deposit methods will be discussed, and crypto is welcomed.

    A deposit allows me to confidently decline other plans and secure your time.

    My trusted regulars have no issue sending me the whole prepayment ahead of time as well when convenient, though this is never expected.

  • All cancellations not initiated by me are subject to loss of deposit. Deposits can be transferred towards future dates on a strictly case-to-case basis. Disrespectful pushback against my policies will bar you from any future dates with me, which is ultimately your loss.

    Protocol:

    • 96 hours notice - Slap on the wrist in the form of a 100% prepayment requirement for future dates.

    • 72 hours or less - 25% cancellation fee

    • 48 hours or less - 50% cancellation fee

    • 24 hours or less - 100% cancellation fee

    • When I am on tour or hosting in another city, cancellations with less than 72h notice could require up to a 100% cancellation fee.

  • I am in high demand for many reasons. A past client once described successfully arranging a date with me as “getting a table at The French Laundry or Noma.”

    There is very little reason for me to turn away a decent enquirer beyond a lack of availability from my end. I will always do my best to accommodate but your best bet is to enquire as early as possible.

    Anywhere from 2 days to a week in advance is standard, 2 weeks’ notice is ideal (I have even accepted 9 months in advance) to avoid disappointment.

    Same-Day & Late Notice (Singapore only)

    If I'm able to accommodate your request with less than 24h notice, a rush fee will be added.

    12-24h notice: +25% of my rate

    5-12h notice: +50% of my rate

    Teleportation 1-4h: 200% my rate

    • Please note that I won’t guarantee all activities requested. This is entirely dependent on hygiene, mutual comfort, and safety. I take my health extremely seriously and so should you.

    • A lady should never have to say “no, I don’t enjoy that.” more than once. Repeated pushing of any boundaries set will result in the immediate termination of the date with no refunds.

    • Anything that is illegal will be reported to the authorities, which I will pursue to the fullest extent for any damages.

  • I don’t mandate X hours of sleep, alone time for working out or getting ready, or managing replies on my phone. I also don’t mandate a particular split of private and public time, only going with what feels fun, mutually comfortable, natural, and unrushed. This isn’t a hostage situation after all.

    • What I enjoy: cuddling, 7h of uninterrupted sleep, morning sex, and breakfast in bed.

    To me, the above things that are simple common sense if you’re a gentleman who knows that my most relaxed and well-rested self is also my horniest and most cheerful self.

  • My wardrobe is extensive, from very sexy to sweet to conservative, but on public dates, I prefer to wear uncomplicated designer pieces that enhance my elegant contours. My default style is classy, feminine, and elegant. I will always be dressed to impress (befitting dress codes) but won’t ever raise eyebrows.

    If there is something you must see me in (and I love dressing up in something that someone has picked out for me), let’s discuss you getting it for me!

    Reasonable outfit requests are happily accommodated - however, I do not tolerate micromanagement.

  • In a word: No. Aside from navigating legalities, this is not a takeaway restaurant, so I don’t publish a check-list or menu of activities for you to pick from. I’d like to meet people who are adept enough to read between the lines based on the descriptions I’ve provided.

    I’m extremely kink friendly and always curious about new avenues of sexuality, however, the onus is on you to communicate your desires. I welcome you to be crystal clear in what you’re after. I’m not a mind reader or oracle. If I were, I’d engage in insider trading.


  • In reality, the people I spend time with professionally rarely overlap with my everyday life — and that's largely by design.

  • If you would like to use me as a reference, please reach out to get my permission. We must have seen each other within the past 6 months. I would also require a gift or tip worth $150 sent to me prior to writing a reference for you. Please note that this is an admin fee for the time taken to vouch for you, and time is money after all.

    Fellow companions: Please reach out via email and send a separate DM. I would also appreciate it if you remind clients to check my reference policy before reaching out!

  • If you find my prices too steep, I highly suggest the following actions:

    Scrolling through LinkedIn / Negotiating your salary with your superior / Kick rocks / Download dating apps / Find someone else within your budget / Do literally anything else except continue negotiating with me

  • I am extremely selective about professional collaborations and do not collaborate with locally based companions in Singapore or Hong Kong. Since my dear girlfriend C retired from the scene, I’ve returned to my longstanding preference for working solo.

    Compatibility, presentation, professionalism, discretion and brand alignment all matter to me, and I would rather offer no collaboration at all than one that does not feel genuinely exceptional. Rare exceptions may be made for well-established international collaborators with whom I already have a trusted relationship, typically outside of Asia.

    I do not provide referrals or recommendations for other companions within Asia. I take endorsements seriously, and I would rather make no recommendation than attach my name to an experience that may not meet the standard my clients are accustomed to.

    TL;DR: I am not a dick concierge. Please do your own research and choose whoever else genuinely appeals to you if I’m not available.